^^^ what they said
alos, you don;t want to do anything that could give your kids the feeling of being traped between you, or having to chose between the two of you... that would just make things worse
![Sad :(](http://www.tekforums.net/Smileys/teksmileys/sad.gif)
(not that youre going to make them pick... but... well...you know what i mean, kids sometimes get the wrong end of the stick, and dont want to ask what you really mean)